FOR YOU

You’ve heard that saying, “Rejection is protection,” right? I see this phrase cycle through every once in a while, and it seems to be back again. The most recent version of it was, “Rejection builds strength and character”. So, whether it’s a person or a job or some other situation, these kinds of thoughts can certainly temporarily help us feel better (maybe), but are they true?

So, let me ask you this - Have you ever walked away from someone or something? I’ll bet you have. Do you think that person or situation was protected from your rejection? Are they stronger and have better character now because you left? Probably not.

[Let us for a minute acknowledge that abusive, neglectful, or toxic situations are unacceptable and if this has been your experience, my heart is holding yours with such deep Love and compassion. It is my hope you received the help, healing, strength, and Love you needed to create healthy boundaries and a healthy life.]

Let us dig into the deeper end of one of the aspects of this topic.

Are you really being protected from a person who leaves your life? It’s tempting to focus on believing that, and I’ll admit that in my past I’ve thought that way, too, but no, not really. Just like you and me, most people are good people. They do the best they can day in and day out. They Love. They help others. They have feelings, passions, talents, and much to offer the people in their lives and their community. They go to work, pay their bills, raise families, build great things, and make a difference each and every day.

Now that they are gone, are you stronger and do you have better character? Probably not. You likely do not feel more durable every time someone exits your life. You are not more resilient every time someone says goodbye. I’ve noticed a common, albeit insecure response is to build defensive emotional walls while projecting the negative energy of, “I didn’t need him or her anyway”, or “I knew I was better off by myself”.

And what about character? You do not magically become a better person inside as a result of someone leaving your life. You are not somehow more ethical. Can the situation provide you with the opportunity to reflect on what needs to be healed or improved within you? Yes. And can that internal work lead you to become a stronger, more resilient person with better character? Certainly. The opportunity to become a better version of yourself can present itself in the wake of your loss, but it doesn’t just happen because you’ve experienced loss. Growth happens with intention, effort, and a commitment to improve.

Bottom line? We are not generally being protected from a person who or situation that leaves our lives. We are actually protected *FOR* something else entirely. 

People and opportunities come into our lives for all sorts of reasons and seasons. It could be to help with healing an aspect of yourself you’ve been unable to do on your own, to literally birth you into existence, or to show you what you’re capable of. Someone or something might be there to show you what the absence of Love, peace, kindness, patience, honor, commitment, or truth looks or feels like so that you will appreciate those things and make them a priority in your own heart, mind, body, and life. Someone might have even been there for a time to Love you unconditionally until you were strong enough to do it for yourself on your own. And then, as quickly as they arrived, you or they disappeared with one of you probably wondering what the heck happened.

When a person or circumstance has left your life, energetically it simply means their purpose is now complete. And rather than choosing to believe or feel something was done TO you, when you instead choose to embrace this significant opportunity to do your own reflection, soul work, and growth, you begin to realize something was decidedly done “FOR YOU”. This doesn’t mean you won’t go through a normal range of emotions, but you’ll want to listen to your intuition on where you go from here because this is exactly what Spirit wanted for you in the first place.

Spirit will redirect you at will and the idea is to *protect your path (or that of someone else’s) FORward*, especially if YOU’ve been stuck. And maybe the person or situation returns at some point, but the fact is, not everyone or everything is able to travel with you every step of the way. Spirit will literally show you the when, where, how, and what for your next steps. If you ignore the signs, eventually Spirit just moves you, and it’s not always pleasant or convenient. It’s literally a huge opportunity to heal, release, grow, teach, learn, welcome in someone or something new into your life, or give you the space and time to focus on something that Spirit wants you to put your efforts into. It is a gift of space to welcome in the abundance and the path that your Soul is being led to receive. Your task at this point is to sit in this space to allow what was to flow out, to integrate lessons learned (intention, effort, and commitment), and finally to welcome in your next steps or abundance meant for you.

You are here at this moment for a reason, my Love. A crossroad, if you will. One path allows you the comfort of familiarity and the other through the lens of wisdom. Which path will you take?

Will you choose FORward for YOU?

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